Hey guys, as many of you may have read from the previous blog post I have a new baby nephew. :) My cousin, Alissa, gave birth to a healthy baby boy less than two weeks ago and the briss, held in a synagogue in the religious city of Bnei Brak, was this past Monday. For those you not familiar with Orthodox Jewish practices (like me until coming to Israel) here is the one key that I would say guides this particular lifestyle: you dress and act modestly.
Though different sects of Orthodox Jews believe in slightly different interpretations of "modestly," it generally means the men wear black suits, shoes, full-brim hats, and kippas and women (always) wear skirts that go below the knee (most often to ankle) and stockings so as not to show leg skin (too hot for TV), tops that cover the elbows and chest, and head covering so as not to expose the hair.
In addition, men and women who are not married or directly related cannot touch each other. This also extends to married couples in public where embracing, hugging, kissing, and generally showing affection are considered inappropriate acts.
Orthodox couples are typically introduced through a matchmaker (like my cousin), they "date" for a few weeks to a month, which consists of supervised meetings where they get to know each other. Once they are satisfied with dating, they get married and pretty much as many babies as possible. The rule is generally to be fruitful and multiply up until you can no longer afford to do so.
I won't get into the aspects of the life as it related to the Torah and synagogue because so much can be written regarding the complexities of Shabbat and their relationship to Judaism that it's just not worth my time, buuuut I will explain the briss ceremony, which I had never been through and found interesting enough to write this post on.
Sorry about lack of pictures, but I didn't bring my camera. Next time I see my cousin I'll make sure to get the baby's picture and post it here.
I arrived at the synagogue with my aunt and uncle around 10:45 AM. The briss was supposed to held at 11 AM, but my cousin and her husband were running late, only arriving at 11:20 AM from Jerusalem. According to a certain rule (not sure if it's religious) the baby cannot be fed an hour before the circumcision and my cousin hadn't slept because the baby was demanding to sleep during the day and cry and eat at night. Soon after, the baby was prepped by being placed on a big pillow. Then, all of the men went to the front of the synagogue (women are not allowed in the front) and my cousin-in-law put on a Tallit, a prayer shawl, and read a bunch of prayers. There appeared to be a lot of call-and-response, as oftentimes something would be head by a Rabbi-like figure and all of the other men would repeat it or say something else in unison. [Really interesting fact: Yiddish is still alive and well because after the ceremony almost all of the Orthodox men were speaking Yiddish, rather than Hebrew, to each other.] After several minutes of prayer the baby was circumcised and quickly pacified. The whole process was rather quick lasting only 10-20 minutes. Afterwards, there were cookies available in the synagogue.
There were two circumcisions on the agenda for the day and after the second one we went downstairs to the reception area. Men and women sat on separate parts of the hall, separated by a removable wall, and had a great lunch that was punctuated by long bouts of singing and toasts on behalf of the fathers. I was not over on the women's side, but most of the kids were there running mad from what I heard.
Interesting to note: Though I was dressed nicely for the event and of course wore a kippa, I stood out like a sore thumb, and never felt that I got a dirty look for being secular.
Overall, a very interesting experience. I want to thank Zaev and Alissa for inviting me to the briss and I want to congratulate them on welcoming not quite two-week-old Zelman Moishe Epstein to the family.
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